is hard, but there are some tips and tricks that can make the whole thing a
little bit easier.
you want to know how to make that special someone fall head-over-heels, i got
tuned to find out why you should always wear something fluffy when meeting with
might be surprised, as to why this simple trick works.
Try new experiences
is an experience, it’s scary, and it’s nerve-racking.
people these days have turned to dating apps to help them meet new people.
tinder to bumble, it’s like a new dating app pops up every day.
chances are when you use these services, you aren’t going to find many people
who want serious relationships.
you meet a person on an app, you have no idea how they are in person.
have nothing to connect with, other than the fact that you both have the same
app downloaded on your phones to ensure that your date goes a bit smoother.
to meet people in another way.
a recreational sports team.
way you know that you at least have one thing in common, or you could try
joining a club that interests you.
meeting on common ground, even ensure that the two of you have at least one
subject to talk about, which will inevitably lead to more lively conversation.
people this way, also takes away some of the stress of a first date.
already know the person from your club or sports meetings.
there aren’t as many first date jitters as there are when you are meeting a
stranger off of an app for the first time.
it is a much better story to tell your kids looking back that you met your
husband at a kickball practice rather than my swiping right, isn’t it?
Let your friends set you
you’ve tried going out to bars to meet people then you know what a battleground
that can be, everyone in the room is looking for someone.
most guys, they aren’t actually looking for anything serious.
if you do meet someone you like at the bar, you run the risk of having the same
problem that you would, if you had met them on an app.
don’t have anything to talk about?
a pro tip to skip some of that awkwardness.
your friends set you up with someone.
they have already done all the pre-screening for you.
letting a friend, match you with one of their friends, you avoid all the
weirdos out there.
best friend isn’t going to send you out on a date with the person that you have
nothing in common with.
she? Probably not.
as far as the compatibility scale is concerned you were much more likely to
mesh then with a stranger that you picked up at a bar or on tinder.
friends have your best interests at heart.
go to them for help in picking out outfits, why not dating help too.
try it once, and i promise this will become your go-to method of dating.
it comes to dating and choosing a mate, smell is of the utmost importance.
all who wants to be with someone, if they have to plug their nose.
if smell is so important, then it pretty much goes without saying that smoking
on a date is a no-no.
test this theory out, over 1,000 match.com members were surveyed.
participants included smokers and non-smokers.
of those surveyed said, they would never date a smoker.
even more surprising is that, 60% of smokers even had reservations about dating
you are a smoker, then it’s probably best to just keep your habit at home and
not interrupt your date for a smoke break.
only is leaving to go smoke quite rude, but it is also apparently a very big
turn-off even if the other person smokes.
still may not want a partner who does.
that being said, it’s probably best if even just in the beginning of the
relationship, you either try to cut down on the smoking, or quit altogether.
won’t just be good for your dating life, your lungs will also thank you, and
all your clothes will smell ten times better.
like i said, that could just make or break your potential relationship.
Don’t ask too many questions
going on a date with someone, it is important to get to know them.
make sure you aren’t sitting across the table from a serial killer or a guy
who’s already in a relationship.
when we are trying to get to know someone, we ask lots of questions.
studies have actually shown that asking too many questions on a first date
could actually backfire on you.
at stanford university wanted to test what made dates go well, and what made
they analyzed almost 1,000 4-minute speed dates.
found out that, if you asked too many questions, your date may not like you as
much as they normally would.
studies show that the couples who asked more questions during the date felt
to the author of the study dan mcfarland phd, asking too many factual questions,
like where the person is from, and what their hobbies are, actually makes
people feel detached.
it makes a date feel forest.
when you want to get to know someone, ask them a few questions and then just
sit back and see what happens.
them a chance to talk, before you just go down your list you want to ask.
promise, the other person will thank you.
Don’t pretend to be
along the line, people started getting the idea that, being uninterested was a
one wants to seem too excited about anything these days, like it’s cool to be
when it comes to dating, playing it cool could actually have adverse effects.
to research published in the personality and social psychology bulletin,
responsiveness and niceness increase how much people are attracted to you.
study tested 112 single college students, who are told to discuss a recent
negative interaction with a stranger of the opposite sex.
rated that person’s responsiveness and attractiveness among other things.
women did not necessarily rate the more responsive guys as more attractive, but
for men it was the complete opposite.
were more attracted to women who seemed responsive to them.
you are on a date and would like to go on a second one with that person, it is
probably in your best interest to make that clear.
to be uninterested in him, will come off as rude and cause him not to invite
you out again.
all, who wants to sit through a lunch with someone who isn’t paying them any
attention, or some selling at them.
when it seems like your date isn’t getting the hint that you are interested,
you should make it clear, and tell them.
Tell a vulnerable story
makes you want to turn a first date into a second, or third?
connection that you have with the person, right?
can only go so far.
attracted or attractive to someone is only enough to secure first date.
from there your personalities need to match.
best way to get someone to want to see you again, is to form some kind of
tangible connection with them.
out from all the other people that they are seeing, by letting them get to see
you for who you are.
way to do this is by telling some sort of vulnerable story.
you go through a hard time that made you grow as a person recently, maybe tell
them about it.
you don’t want to get too deep and dark.
still a stranger after all. But letting people in is a great way to build a
will know that you have done a good job if they share something with you in
believe that this trick works?
try it out on your next date.
a story that you are comfortable sharing and go for it .
almost guarantee that, this will lead to another meetup.
Get him to hold coffee
it comes to wooing the opposite sex, there are a lot of tips and tricks that
have been around for decades.
eye contact, smile at him etc.
I’m about to give you a tip, that I can almost guarantee that you have never
you want a guy to see you as a warm person, get him to hold some hot coffee.
according to Ruud Custer’s, a psychology professor at Utrecht university in the
Netherlands, when you get someone to hold coffee, or other warm drinks, they
will see you as a warm person.
rule also holds true with cold drinks.
the person is holding something cold, they may unconsciously see you as colder.
rooms are likely to have a similar effect.
says, that if the environment is hot, the guy is more likely to think that you
when we have certain words like hot and warm in our heads, we begin to
associate them with the people around us.
up with your crush in a warm coffee shop, seems like the best of both worlds.
the guy you like has some personal vendetta against coffee, then just try to
steer him away from dates, and colder areas, and you should still be fine.
been talking about connection and how important it is to form one with the
person that you want to date.
if you don’t feel comfortable sharing your deepest darkest secrets with them
just yet, then rest assured.
are other ways to build that intimacy that you want.
studies have shown that, being touched by someone will unintentionally increase
liking for that person.
when you are out with them, make sure to touch them whenever possible.
example, if they make a particularly funny joke, reach out and slap their
shoulder lightly while you laugh.
if they are telling a story that you find touching, pat their shoulder or rub
of course you don’t want to seem creepy.
you should probably try to gauge the reaction after every touch.
they seem annoyed, that you are touching them?
not, then keep it up.
is a great way to determine if they like you and show interest in them at the
also starts to unconsciously form a bond between the two of you which is
exactly what you wanted all along.
it out on your next date and let me know how it goes in the comments.
Wear something smooth or
we have mentioned how important touching is.
creates an unconscious bond between people, but what you might not have heard
is how important it is for you to look touchable.
study in the science journal, found that people respond more to smooth or
the study, participants were asked to put together puzzles with a partner.
participants reported, that the process went less smoothly in situations, where
the puzzle pieces were covered in sandpaper.
phenomenon has to do with word association again.
you are looking at scratchy or itchy things, you start to put those feelings
onto the person with you.
can apply this knowledge to the dating world by making sure, that you don’t
wear things that look like they would be irritating or unpleasant to touch.
putting on a fuzzy sweater, or a nice silk blouse, both of those materials feel
great against the skin.
can also use this trick to shape your environment.
go on a date to places with uncomfortable chairs.
to go somewhere with nice fluffy couches, and a warm inviting atmosphere.
the person you’re dating is going to associate the room with your personality,
then you should always pick a room that shows how you want to be reflected.
cozy restaurants are always a good choice.
Don’t wear too much
girls love makeup.
are so many fun products to try out, and new applying techniques are popping up
on YouTube every day, how could you not love it.
when it comes to getting the attention of a guy, it might be better to go a
little bit lighter on the contour.
Ives conducted a study of 1,000 women and 550 men to determine, if men even
liked the makeup, that they spend forever doing.
study found that, 40% of men think that women wear too much makeup, and 45% of
men said that all the makeup that women wear turns them off.
men were also not fans of fake tans.
of men claimed, that was a turn-off.
the study, the guys also said that they didn’t like red lipstick, or fake
of this just goes to show that a lot of males like women to look more natural.
next time you go out with a guy, maybe try skipping the sharp cat eye and the
for a more natural look and see what happens.
only will you save money on makeup, but you will save time.
because, you won’t have to go through a long arduous makeup routine every time
you want to meet up with your guy.
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